Christian Home and Family — Lesson #13




As God is bringing restoration and order to the Household of God (the Church), we find that the home plays a vital part in this visitation. In the Old Testament, the family was the corporate body of worshippers with the father as the spiritual leader and authority (Joshua 24:15).


A material house does not come together without a blueprint.  As Christians, the    blueprint of God’s Word is our guideline for establishing our home.

A.     Every institution must have a proper foundation

(Matthew 7:24-27); (Luke 6:46-49).

1.     Proper foundation for the family unit is first to be “born again”.

2.     Not only hear the Word of God, but practice it as it relates to   the family unit and relationships within the family.

B.    A home must be built (Psalms 127:1); (Proverbs 14:1). 1.    Each member has a responsibility.

2.   As each member functions in his/her area of responsibility, the   home will be built.

C.    There must be divinely instituted government                                                                      within the home (Ephesians 6:1-4); (5:22-32).

There is a “chain of command”, or order of headship,                                                                     in the home, even as there is in the Church or civil                                                             government (I Corinthians 11:3); (Colossians 1:18).


A.    The Scriptures declare that the husband and wife are                                                                             “one flesh”. Thus, headship is not intended to bring about division, but unity.

B.     Headship does not mean:

1.   Dictatorship.                                                                                                                                              2.   Inequality of men, women or children.                                                                                          3.       Inferiority of Woman.                                                                                                                              4.       Superiority of Man.



A.      Covenant publicly made between a man and a woman, and God for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family.

B.    Of vital interest to God. He instituted it in (Genesis 1:26-28);         (2:18-25).

C.    It is intended to be a life-long union that can only be dissolved by  death or                           unfaithfulness (Romans 7:2-3). (Matthew 19:6) says, “Wherefore   they are no                    more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man                         put asunder”.


1.   He must acknowledge and confess Jesus Christ as Lord of his life.

2.   He must accept that God has ordained that he be the priest and head of his

household (Ephesians 6:1-2), and that he himself is under headship

(I Corinthians 11:3).

3.   He must recognize that his wife was         created by God to be his help-meet; not                               help-mate (Genesis 2:18).

4.    He must recognize that his wife is of like nature and substance

Genesis 2:23).


5.    He must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife.

6.   He must recognize that he and his wife are one, even as Christ and the                                         Church are one:

(a)   Adam (Genesis 2:23).

(b)   Jesus (Matthew 19:4-6).                                                                                                                                 (c)   Paul (Ephesians 5:30-31).

7.    He must love his wife as Christ loved the Church (Ephesians 5:2,25-31).

8.   He must sacrifice for his wife; give himself even as Christ gave Himself for                                          the Church (Ephesians 5:25).

9.    He must nourish (“to promote health and strength”) his wife

(Ephesians 5:29).

10.     He must cherish (“to impart warmth, foster, care for”) his wife

(Ephesians 5:29).

11.   Respect and honor (I Peter 3:7).

12.   Live in harmony (Unity) (I Peter 3:8). 13.   Have compassion (I Peter 3:8).                                                                                                                    14.   Love as a human being (I Peter 3:8).                                                                                                          15.   Be sympathetic (I Peter 3:8).

16.   Be courteous (I Peter 3:8).                                                                                                                        17.        Not retaliating (I Peter 3:9).

18.     Not be abusive with his tongue (I Peter 3:10).

B.   Wife

1.    She must know area of responsibility. Husband and wife are equal as                                                persons, but not equal in responsibility.

2.    Must accept responsibility in the right attitude. The woman is not inferior to man; not competing with man. Husband and wife are   equal in importance, but not equal in position.

3.    She must have a submissive spirit (Hebrew meaning: “to come under  the                                           protection of another”), (Ephesians 5:22-24); (Colossians 3:18);                                                                  (I Peter 3:1-6).

4.    She must have a quiet and meek spirit (I Peter 3:1-6).

5.    Modest and Godly (I Timothy 3:9-10).

6.    Recognize that she and her husband are heirs together of the Grace  of life                                      (I Peter 3:7).

7.    The wife is the help-meet; the complement to her husband (Genesis 2:18).

8.    Love her husband and children (Titus 2:4).

9.    Avoid the sin of nagging (Proverbs 19:13); (21:9); (27:15).

A marriage must pivot around the will of God and the purpose of God for their lives.          When a couple is married, they begin the adventure of “oneness”.  It can only be               encountered as they both love God and one another. They must serve Him.  They            cannot follow two independent courses of action.


A.    They are the heritage of the Lord (Psalms 127:35).

B.    They are the reward of the Lord (Psalms 127:3); (Genesis 33:5); (Psalms 113:9). C.   They are highly esteemed by God (Psalms 127:4-5) (128:3); (Matthew 19:14).

D.    They are a crown (Proverbs 17:6).


A.    They must bring their children to Jesus Christ (Matthew 19:13-14); (Mark 10:13).

B.     Parents must:

1.   Love God                                                                                                                                                            2.   Study His Word.                                                                                                                                                 3.   Teach His children to do the same (Deuteronomy 6:5-7).

C.     Parents must administer Correction when needed:

1.   Correction is an act of love (Proverbs 13:24).

2.   Correction will drive out foolishness (Proverbs 22:15):

(a)    Foolishness, if not corrected, will produce pride (Proverbs 14:3).

(b)    Foolishness and Pride yield:

(1)   Contention (Proverbs 13:10).

(2)   Strife (Proverbs 28:25).

(3)   Brings him low (Proverbs 29:23).

(4)   Shame (Proverbs 11:2); (29:15). 3.   Withholding correction will destroy a child (Proverbs 23:13-14).

D.    Parents are to train their children (Proverbs 22:6).

Definition of train: “to bring to a requisite standard, as of conduct or skill, by             protracted and careful instruction; specifically, to mold the character                 of;educate; instruct; to render skillful or proficient.” E.  Parents are not to provoke their Children, but bring them up in the nurture and       admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4); (Colossians 3:21).                                                                                                                                                                                                                               F.  Children can be worshippers of God (Matthew 21:15-16).

(7)    WHAT ARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE CHILD TOWARDS HIS PARENTS? A.   Children are to honor their parents (Deuteronomy 5:16); (Ephesians 6:2-3).                     B.   Children are to obey their parents:

1.   In God (Ephesians 6:1); (Deuteronomy 30:2); (Proverbs 1:8) (6:20).

2.   In All Things (Colossians 3:20).




Answer these questions and be prepared to discuss this chapter in the next class.

1.    Joshua 24:15 And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day     whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the           other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell:  but as for me and ______________________, we will serve the Lord.

2.    As Christians, the blueprint of ______________________ is our guideline for        establishing our home.

Note:  how mother used to do it                                  the way my father was                                              traditions                                                                             trends                                                                           latest “advice” by the psychologists                               customs                                                                           cultures                                                                            religious ideas

3.    Proper foundation for the family unit is to be ” ___________________________”

4.    Psalms 127:1a. Except the ______________________ build the house, they labour in    vain that build it:

5.     ____________________________________________________



Children                                                                                                                                             _______Order

6.   Please read Ephesians 5:22-31 verse 22 Luke 22:42 gives us our example of true         submission. Ephesians 5:22: Wives _____________ unto your __________       husbands, as unto the Lord. verse 25 Christ died for the church.  Husbands, love             your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and _________________ Himself      for it.  Both of these scriptures(Ephesians 5:22 & 25) have the same heart: dying to           self. Preferring each other above yourself.  But love is not blind and neither is       submission. Love should never compromise your relationship with God nor should            submission  compromise your obedience to God.

7.    Thus, headship is not intended to bring about division, but   ____________________

8.    Headship _____________ means: dictatorship, inequality of men, women or                      children, inferiority of women or superiority of men.

9.    Marriage is a: Covenant publicly made between a man and a woman and _________      for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family.

10.   Husband and wife are ______________ in importance, but not equal in ___________.

11.    What is the Hebrew meaning of submissive?   ______________________________.

12.    A marriage ________________________________ around the will of God and the         __________________________________ of God for their lives.

13.    Who are the heritage of the Lord?  _______________________________________

14.   Parents (that means mothers and fathers) must:

1.   Love God

3.    Study His Word

3.   ____________________ His children to do the same

15.   Withholding ____________________________ will destroy a child.


About drgeorgewatkins

"That the Kingdom of God will rule ,with power, on earth as it rules in Heaven." My life time quest. G.W. BIOGRAPHICAL INFORMATION Rev. George Watkins pastored Christian Life World Outreach and Training Center in Mount Vernon, Washington for 29 years. He is director of George Watkins Ministries a.k.a. WORLDNet Ministries and has ministered through radio broadcasting, audio tape ministry, and a correspondence Bible course reaching into many countries of the world. Ministry teams have traveled with him to over twenty nations, working with local missionaries to establish churches, and conduct crusades and pastors’ seminars. George Watkins has authored several books: Women in Today’s Church, a scriptural insight into God’s intentions for both men and women to minister the Gospel of Jesus Christ; Five Key Secrets to Long Life and Divine Health concerning God’s supernatural protection and promises to those who obey Him; and Staying Free, a mini-book used as a guide to maintaining freedom once delivered from the bondages of satan; Ask The Boy: stories through the eyes of those who were healed by the hands of Jesus. The Wisest Man I Have Ever Known: stories and parables teaching the truths of God’s word, as well as other teaching manuals. George Watkins has been active in the ministry for many years. He has a strong ministry to the local church as a seasoned veteran with his rich background as a pastor and evangelist. Many churches draw from his experience and consider him to be an integral part of their own ministries. His ministry is a blend of humor and straight forward teaching based on the belief that God means what He says, that His Word applies to our everyday, practical lives, and that it has power to make us whole in mind, body and soul. Rev. Watkins believes that the gifts of the Holy Spirit are to be used by every believer. He believes that using these spiritual tools will bring freedom to those in bondage. Rev. Watkins believes this is the age of the supernatural and will prove to be the Church’s finest hour. His vision is to equip the Body of Christ to fulfill the Great Commission, making disciples of all nations. He has a unique ability to challenge the hearer to “sell out” to God, by faith, to fulfill God’s personal plan for your destiny. George and Arlis live in Mount Vernon, WA and are the parents of three adult children: Tony, Tiffany and Corbin.
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